**Please let me know in the comments if you prefer Non-Cis Het Male (Identifying) (N-CHM) or GBTQIA men or alphabet mafia (though redundant for most of our community) or something else

I am from the Irish Nolan line. That is where I trace my ancestry. Nolan means battle cry or shout, in Gaelic, and I am here to issue a battle cry. It is time for us to reclaim our place as warriors. It is time to stop focusing on sensuality, softness, how cute we look, and whether we’re fat or not.

We no longer need cis het men. So it is time that they grow up. It is time that they achieve a true understanding of feminism and N-CHM advocacy. It’s time they realize that their contribution to our lives is not safety or income, but support of our best selves and our fierceness. In my ancestral line is a list of bad ass people, that don’t take shit from cis het men.

It is time for us to arm ourselves with mace, every one of us. It is time that we come to the aid of our community should they be in trouble. Men (cis het men) have largely been a scourge on women. The statistics on rape show that 99% of perpetrators are men. The statistics on homicide show that 90% are committed by men. Men perpetrate 90% of domestic violence. We cannot allow it to go on. We will believe every single person who says that this happened to them.

If you are meeting a strange man, you need to be prepared to kick his ass. As we all know rapists look like any other man. Should a man we know try to hurt us, we need to be prepared to use that mace. We need to embrace our bigger friends, and encourage their warrior nature. They are large and capable of pushing a man around should they need to. If we see a member of our community being harassed it is time to step up and help them take him down verbally or physically if it escalates.

We already come to each other’s aid often. A woman’s bathroom is full of support for cis women, a tampon or pad if you need it. Encouragement about one’s fierceness, or attractiveness, if that is needed, watching your kids while you go to the bathroom. We build each other up there. We need to be fierce about including trans women. We simply need to bring it out of the bathroom into the world at large. We need more of a fuck you attitude. It is abhorrent that we have judged our friends sex lives. We need to end judgement about kids or no kids, good mom/bad mom, fat or skinny. We need to lift each other up. It is time for a new revolution!

And we must include all of our community: those of the global majority, those who are disabled, those who are mentally ill. Honestly, women and the alphabet mafia of the global majority already have a better handle on this than their cis het white counterparts. The mutual aid and defense of each other is no doubt born of the oppression they have suffered largely from cis het, Christian, authoritarian, paternalistic, men. We white people need to take a lesson, in uplifting each other. We can fight for each other! We can bring an end to violence against our community at the hands of men!

In the Sikhi religion, they wear a turban to identify to the world that they will come to the aid of others, and defend with violence, if needed. We need to know that being a woman, identifies to others of our community that we will come to each other’s aid with violence, if needed.  

This is my battle cry; this is my shout to all people of our community all over the world. It is time to end the oppression! It is time to take care of each other and lift each other up! It is time to defend and go to battle for each other! Together we can change the world!

*I’d like to refer you to Nav.Singh, on TikTok. He is an advocate for Sikhs and Sikhi (pronounced sick and sicky), an educator, and a poet. He is the person from whom I gained all knowledge I have on Sikhs. He can give you a sense of how his religion operates and what it can teach us.